We have Judgement...

I finally received the Judgement Entry for my child support case. I will be receiving $500.oo a month and I have been ordered to keep up with my son's health insurance and that any medical, dental or optical expenses exceeding the amount paid by the insurance company will be divided equally. Jeff needs braces so with Roy paying for half he's getting them soon. Hey it's so much better than the measly $102.30 I was getting... but in reality it won't kick in until sometime in March or April depending on how fast his employer acts on the order. Oh and the tax exemption... I keep it. Haha sit and spin Roy.

Still Waiting...

it's been almost a month now since I dragged my ass up to freezing Ohio to settle the stupid child support drama... still have not heard anything yet.. I did however call the Clerk of Courts yesterday to find out the status... Apparently a judgement did get filed on Feb 13th and that I should be receiving the letter any day now... what did they actually use a snail for postal carrier this time? Even if they mailed it one or two days later and taking the "Presidents Day" into consideration I should of had the Judgement Entry no later than today. Geez...

It is finished

Finally...the whole child support ordeal is over. I won't go into great detail but it is finally resolved and I am actually happy with the outcome. I get to keep claiming my son as an exemption and will receive 500.00 per month until Jeff graduates high school in 2009. That came to pass because Roy and I actually agreed it that way. We drew up papers had our signatures notarized and sent it off to the courthouse about two hours after our hearing was over. The whole time we were in the hearing the judge kept hinting that we should get together and work it out. Almost as if to say I really do not want to touch this one. The only issue that the Judge is left with is the breakdown of how the out of pocket expenses for my son's health care will be divided. I will probably be court ordered to maintain my son's health insurance, which will be easier since we live Florida and Roy's insurance is in Ohio. Aside from that headache I enjoyed my visit with my parents even if it was a really short one. On Monday evening when I called home to talk to my family my daughter, Katie, told me that she missed me and that I needed to come home now. My heart broke to hear her say it like that. I know her daddy took good care of her but she is definately my baby. My son however is like " Hey mom, did you soak Roy?" " Love you mom. see ya" Teenagers.... So I have been back since Tuesday night and still not completely with it. I would've kept up on my posts but my parents have dial up and I tried but it was a pain and it kept crashing on me. Now that I am stress free of that headache I can concentrate on doing more with my blog and adding a lot more to it. Well... it's late and of course I have to work in the morning.

Craving a Mr. Hero

One of the few things that I am looking forward to going back to Ohio is a Mr. Hero sandwich. I have been craving it since I moved down here over two years ago. So I have already been teasing Chris about going to Mr. Hero's the first chance I get. It's too bad that they don't franchise down in Florida. They would make a killing. I have been trying to find a cheese steak close to a Mr. Hero and I am sorry Floridians you don't have anything close. So come Monday I am definately sinking my teeth into one of these mouth watering sandwiches.

Anyway to get my mind off that subject. I am getting real anxious to get this stupid child support hearing over with. I have talked several times with Jen, my best friend, who also happens to be the mother of Jeff's half sister, Cassie. Long story short, Roy dated us at approximately the same time and our kids are 7 months apart. We never let that interfere with our children growing up knowing that they are siblings. Cassie came down to visit us last Summer for two weeks. That's them feeding the flamingos:Jeff, Katie and Cassie.

I am going to do my best to see them while I am up in Ohio. Where my parents live and where they live now is about a 2 1/2 hour drive. Not going to be easy. They wanted to come to the hearing but I don't want them driving 3 + hours just so they can sit outside the courtroom. We have been discussing our hearings. Jen went for her first hearing back in mid December. We already know Roy is going to appeal any decision the Magistrate makes. I encourage Jen to have her case reviewed after Cassie was diagnosed with Juvenile Diabetes in October of 2005. Jen told me what to expect and how awful Roy looks. I would too if both my children's mothers were coming after me for more support. I didn't say I felt sorry for him but I bet Jen and I account for all the "white" hair he has. hahaha....

16 days and counting...

I have to travel from warm Florida to constant T.H.O's (Tittie Hard Ons) Ohio. All this for fucking child support. This is on January 29th. This is two days after my son turns 16. I will have to leave on Sunday though because the hearing is at 8am on Monday. My parents still live in Ohio but not for long. So I will stay with them and of course they will be driving me the one hour drive to the courthouse. I am so wanting this over with. I am pretty sure I have everything in order. I have looked all over for laws pertaining to a non-custodial parent rights to claim the tax dependency claim and the only thing I have found is the custodial parent must agree and sign a particular form to allow the non-custodial parent to do so. http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p4449.pdf. This parent ain't doing it. I don't feel comfortable allowing a man that has DENIED his son to begin with to have my son's social security number. People are fucking stupid these days.
If anyone has been through something like this please let me know. I would appreciate any help I get.

Child Support

It's been over a year now since I have had my child support case reviewed. This is a process that can only happen once every three years and it determines whether or not a change in the amount I get from my son's father will increase or decrease. This is the first time ever that they have reviewed my case since they implemented the order back in 1997. I should have had at least three by now but I somehow fell through the "cracks". I was the one that requested the review, I was the one that painstakinly "found" him, the courts and Child Support Enforcement of Ohio for some reason only had his parents address as his. The man hasn't lived there in over ten years. If they can garnish his wages every two weeks you would think they could get his address from his employer.
I have been receiving $102.30 monthly for my son, Jeff, for the past 8 years. My son will be 16 on the 27th of this month folks. So.. almost half his life I have not gotten one red cent from his father. Now that the Child support enforcement agency has established his income and it turns out that he does make more money than I do well lookey here folks he should be paying $623.00 a month. That recommendation came on April of 2006. It is January 9th 2007 and I am still waiting for this to end. My son graduates in May of 2009. Do you think it will be settled before then? I will hopefully find out on January 29th.
Oh and how is this for a slap in the face? The judge is considering the option to allow him to claim Jeff as a dependant on his taxes because his percentage for support would be significantly higher than mine. Uh hello? are we not going to take into account that I have been my son's primary supporter for 16yrs? 8 years of 102.30/month only adds up to $9,816.00. And if by chance he is ordered to pay the 623.00 for let's say two years well that's $14,952.00 add that together and we have a whopping $24,768.00. That's not even a years tuition in the college my son plans on attending folks. What about the fact that Jeff has NEVER met his father? What about the fact that I have had sole custody of my son since birth and I have always provided for him. He never went without the essentials. If I had to work 60-80 hours a week you bet your ass that is what I did. Granted my son spent his first few years calling my sister, Mom, but it was a sacrifice I had to do in order to make sure he was happy, healthy and most importantly loved. So the judge is considering to give the asshole a break? I don't think so...