Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Whoever said that raising boys

is easier than raising girls needs to be shot. Seriously! I have a clue when it comes to girls and how they tick but I thought boys would be much easier since they are supposed to be less emotional right?
Not Jeff, he is the most emotional kid I know. His heart gets broken easily, his self esteem is crap and he has a very hard time dealing with things. I guess I never realized that boys have just as hard of a time with their feelings as girls do. hmm.. I remember what I was like at that age and being a girl was especially hard and frustrating but seeing Jeff deal with certain issues reminds me so much of myself it's downright scary.
I know that not having his real father in the picture has played a role in his trusting people or maybe it's an abandonment issue he suppresses.. whatever it is it makes it extremely difficult for him when someone he truly cares about suddenly walks away from him. Jeff had a real hard time at the beginning of the school year when his first real girlfriend decided that she just didn't want him as a boyfriend.... Chris and I were put through hell trying to help Jeff cope with his first heart break. Constant calls from school informing me that Jeff was having very severe anxiety attacks where he would just shake uncontrollably.
Taking him the doctor proved that he was healthy and that they weren't brought on by anything medical. Finding him a therapist to help him deal with things because no matter how much I assured him that he could talk to me about anything was proving fruitless and I was at my wits end. After about three months of counseling Jeff seemed to be back to normal until last Friday when I got another dreaded phone call from the school nurse informing me that it was happening again. What? He isn't dating anyone... what the hell brought this on? Apparently his best friend, who happens to be a girl, was tempting with the idea of them becoming more than good friends. They had gone to the movies a few weeks ago and they got real close and they kissed. When Monday rolled around she acted like it never happened. Jeff got all confused and hurt because she acted like it was all fun and no harm no foul deal. When Jeff apparently told her how he felt she backed off and stopped talking to him altogether. I know it's all a part of growing up and dealing with the real world but I can't stand to see Jeff so hurt. He is taking it much better the second time around because I think he is trying to suck it up and brush it off but sometimes I look at him and my heart aches.


kat said...

Oh that sucks. Poor kid.
But girls, they are a nasty trifling bunch aren't they?
It's all fun and games to them, they don't realize, or maybe they don't care, that boys have feelings too.
Totally frigging sucks. :(

Mindy said...

Y'know times have certainly changed because I remember being a teenager like it was yesterday and the boys were they ones that were heartless. I just don't know what to do for Jeff other than hug him and keep telling him how much I love him. I hate not having all the answers:(