that's what I would like to say to a certain counselor at my daughters camp. Katie has never been a " behavioral problem" in school or anywhere else. So why is it that I have had three disciplinary notes that I have had to sign regarding certain things that Katie supposedly did.
Monday - she gets written up for stealing some girls lunch and hiding it through out the gymnasium. Come to find out that there were several girls involved and another counselor told me that Katie did what another girl told her to do. My daughter sadly to say is a follower. Don't like it but I know it. Her dad and I try to enforce that it is not always ok to do things just because other kids are doing it. I know in time it will sink in but she is 7.
Tuesday - She gets written up for going into a construction zone at the middle school where they hold camp and then apparently hits another camper with a ball. When her dad talked to Katie we learned that she was chasing the ball another kid threw in the construction zone and when she threw it back it hit someone. I call that an accident not intentional. The counselor told me that she yelled at Katie to not go in that area. Uhm.. I have a problem with that.. y'see Katie has issues with her hearing which is clearly stated in her sign up form for the camp it also stated that she has tubes in hers. I told the counselor that YELLING at Katie is not going to insure that she will HEAR you. So that write up to me should be invalid.
Wednesday - another write up accusing Katie of drooling and spitting at other kids on the bus. This definitely disturbed me because that is not Katie. When we talked to her about this we learn that her and another girl were having a contest to see who could "zurbert" or put you lips together and make them vibrate the longest. So Katie being who she is and loves winning at contest did it so hard and long that yes she did drool and some spittle came out of her mouth. Was it done to intentionally spit on others? NO. So then I get this notice that Katie has been put on STRIKE status. Where you have three strikes and you are out. She is at strike one.
Now I have read the Strike Three policy which clearly states that children will be put on notice if they intentionally do harm to others or themselves.. Am I missing something because I do not see in any of the write ups where she intentionally did these things. I am going to have to talk with this supervisor. I understand that there are at least 30 kids in one group and there may be 3 supervisors to one group. My thinking is that they did not witness these events and therefore did not have the facts before assuming what happened and we all know what happens when you ASSuME.
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I'd be completely pissed! The "supervisors" sound like "dumbasses" to me. The problem is, when you go down there to say something to them, You are the one who is gonna look like one of those weird moms who thinks their kid hung the moon. I'd say you make her fess up (in front of them) to probably spitting too hard and not being careful, and then fight the whole COMPLETE DEFIANCE with the ears and yelling thing. Make it look like she should know better about hiding somebodies food, but "YOUR SURE that all the girls involved got in trouble" so they see that you are willing to work with them, but not take their crap, and that they'd better be careful next time they decide your daughter is gonna be the scapegoat. I hate it when adults pull a control thing with kids. Make sure your little one knows that they know her name so it will probably be the one they yell when they see a bunch of kids messing around, so she needs to be on her best behavior. Or yank her out. I vote for that, but she probably wants to stay.
Humincat - Spoken like a true mother:) I did have my talk with the "Head Supervisor" and she did admit that something was definitly not Kosher as far as Katie's treatment. Katie has had her slate cleared and is no longer on strike one. I was also told that some of the counselors do tend to get frustrated easily and that they were not aware of Katie's hearing problem. They apprently thought she was purposely not listening to them. They will be made aware of it and if they have anymore occurences that they are to call me directly at work so that I can field out the situation and make sure that they have all the facts before a warning slip is written. We'll see how this goes.
Glad you got somewhere with them. I'm gonna tell next years teacher that she may call my cell or email me ANYTIME my little one is out of order. So far it hasn't ever come up, but she is getting mouthier....
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